Is it okay to date after my ex and I have separated?

For purposes of marital fault, only conduct which occurred prior to the date of separation can be used as marital fault. However, if one spouse can prove the other had a romantic relationship with a third party before date of separation, their activity after the date of separation can be used for corroborative purposes.

Generally, it is a good idea to wait at least three months after separation to start dating. If you enter into a new relationship immediately after separation, it just invites the other spouse to assume something was going on before you separated – even if that is not the case. Be aware, however, adultery is still a statutory misdemeanor in North Carolina for any married person who has extra-marital sex. Despite that, the district attorney’s office generally has no interest in criminal prosecution of this statute.